If you can’t take the criticism, don’t be an inconsiderate dumb-ass.

I am sick and tired of people getting offended when being questioned as to their behavior after they do something that’s moronic and selfish with no regard for others it will affect.

It doesn’t matter if you’re friend, family or foe.
I will question you and take a “wait and see” attitude as to your future behavior and conduct. Don’t ask me to forget, saying “It’s all in the past” and expect that I’ll let it pass and forget.
I won’t.

If you lie to me, you lose my trust until you can prove yourself trustworthy again.
If you cry a poor mouth then buy shit you do not need when there is a less costly alternative albeit not as hoity-toity, don’t expect sympathy from me if you can’t pay your bills.
If you try to commit suicide while drunk and drugged out of your right mind, don’t expect me to believe you’re all better because you can speak a few words clearly. When you’ve shown by your actions and your maturity that you’re thinking right and have not pulled any more stupid selfish attention getting acts for a time period , then I will believe you’re in your right mind to stay.

Do not call me up wanting to vent when that person(s) has ‘done you wrong’, when this is the umpteenth million time they’ve done you wrong. Do not expect me to sit tirelessly while you whine and whimper because, like a dumb shit, you fell hook line and sinker for their sporadic niceness towards you again. Niceness that has always bitten you in the ass in the past.

Don’t expect advice if you’re not going to take it. Please instead expect me to tell you how I see it, even if that means telling you I think you’re actions are that of a jackass on crack because they are so damn asinine. If someone hurts you over and over again, if someone is two-faced to you over and over again I would think you would get a clue about their nature. If not, your getting used and abused is your own damn fault!

And if you’re a damn politician, you better be voting the way We The People Want, or you’ll be out on your ass the next election cycle.

If you find this to harsh, then don’t read my damn blog!

Why do some males think just because they slosh out a wad of sperm, that particular action makes them a Father or a Dad?

If you’ve read any of my previous posts you know a bit of the medical, drug and alcohol issues my sister went through last year. She is doing better if you ask certain people at certain times, while at others, I hear she’s not doing so well and needs Supplemental Social Security for her disability (Note: she went through testing last month by SS doctors and they deemed her able to work.)

I also have been told she “needs a caregiver”, to help her out. Personally, I feel it’s a racket to make a cash cow out of my sister and to keep her and her daughter obligated and Dependant on the individuals she is currently living with. I do not trust them. The female of the two, tells me one thing, while telling others another and she talk shit on me ALL THE DAMN TIME.

For example, How I don’t really care for my sister, that I just wanted to keep her a prisoner in a home, How I “Finally” got information to her, the female (on behalf of my sister and her sons) so my sister could go after the alleged Sperm Donor, for years of back child support.
So you may get an inkling as to why I do not trust those people. They cry a poor mouth on one hand, but insist they’ve room for my sister and her daughter. Yet to some they complain and relay instances where my sister is supposedly not doing a good job of caring for her daughter. If they ever try and remove my sister’s daughter from her citing my sister’s inability to care for her, they’ll have a huge fight on their hands, as THEY ARE NOT FAMILY OR BLOOD, and they have no legal say or rights to shit!!

The Bad Penny/The alleged Sperm Donor last saw his youngest son (by my sister) when he was around 8 months old. That was back in 1995. He now all the sudden wants to be “Daddy” and see “His boys” and visit with them or have them go visit him. Not a good idea at all. The older of the two boys, seems to want to see him, but in my opinion what he wants is to finally have a father in his life.

This Male is no Father. much less a man nor a good example for anyone to pattern themselves after. He’s abused women (my sister being one of them), he’s stolen property from others, he’s damaged auto’s as a revenge tactic (acid on windshields and windows), had roosters for cock fighting, done hard narcotics, (coke and meth just to name a couple.) He also drinks to excess.

He’s a mean, distasteful piece of crap of a male. I’ve no doubt my nephews aren’t the only children he’s not paying for. He’d like folks to think he’s a mans man and gruff in the Tim -the -Tool-Man sort of way but he is not. He’s not been there, nor paid for his children so why should he reap the rewards of knowing them now? Let’s see you pony up some of your settlement money and PAY your back child support to start with, ya dead beat. Let’s see you make a bona fide effort to reconnect with your kids, like sending them birthday money when you say you’re going to, but don’t. All you’ve given those kids are hang-ups, and an abusive past they’re slowly recovering from.

For those who think I’m talking out my ass, I still have the message he left on our answering machine with threats against the family on it. Some stand up “Man”, isn’t he?

So if you’re thinking or if you’ve knocked some girl up, either be a real dad and own up to your responsibilities or stay the fuck out of their lives all together.

If you’re one of those men who has been a Real Father & Dad and been responsible, good on ya.

It’s been awhile (October 25,2007) since my last update, so let me catch you up.

My sister, got through her brain surgery ok. She had as many of the AVM/ATT’s removed as was possible. After the surgery she was moved to an Intermediate Care Facility down in Central Oregon. But she wasn’t there long. In her state of mind, she was insistent that ‘we’ were holding her prisoner and that she was ‘fine’. After only a short while (and the prodding of her “friends“) she checked herself out AMA (Against Medical Advice).
That was even before a new competency exam could be done. So, she’s back up in the drug and booze haven hell hole. Where now, she supposedly ‘has’ to attend drug and alcohol rehab/treatment classes twice a week.

We’ll see how long that lasts. She is still not in her ‘right mind’ and I doubt ever will be again. But I’ll be one of the last people she calls as she still is pissed I tried to help her by bending over backwards to see that she got the help she needed.

I did write to the state agencies to have things on record especially with my neice involved and in the same living situation that my sister is in. I hope by some miracle my sister gets her head on as straight (as much as possible) and her shit together and gets a life for herself and daughter. I am not holding my breath over that happening though.

Then there’s Sperm-donor…him and that skank have been trying to hunt down ways to collect disability for her so she or he doesn’t have to work. It’s sick and really pisses me off considering all the truely disabled folks out there who had to fight tooth -n- nail to get the mere pitence they have.

A month ago tomorrow, my nephew, Hayden Wyatt Thomas was born. (Weight: 9#’s 2 Oz. Head Circum. 13 and 3 quarters, length 20 and a quarter inches long. He’s got a full head of dark hair, too It’s hard to believe he’s that old already. Hell, it’s hard to believe my brother’s a daddy. It makes me feel really damn old.

Hayden’s mom went out of town to see her mom and baby sis, and promised my brother they’d be back home in time for him to spend the first Christmas morning with his new son. Well, her mother didn’t see to it that it happened-and neither did Haydens mom. There were excuses, and I’m sure I’ll hear more, but they had Days to make arrangements to get her and him home on time, and their word. I’ve lost all respect for Hayden’s Maternal grandma at this point.

Hayden’s mom needs to grow a back bone, cut them apron strings and stop relying on her mom and younger sisters approval above the man she’s with and above her sons. The very first Christmas in a childs life comes only once, and my brother was denied that. It really pisses me off and makes me hurt for him. I know when little Hayden asks about his first Christmas, I’m gonna tell him like it was, not some glossed over-feel good memory they blur to make themselves feel less gulity. And if they don’t feel guilty, they really don’t know the true meaning of Christmas and they sure didn’t put Hayden’s needs first, just there own.

Of course on the subject of Hayden, Sperm donor hasn’t been to even see him yet nor even sent a card or squat. He’s used his “New Grandpa status” to get freebies though, you can bet your ass. What a fucktard!

As for my Christmas, it was good. Way too short though. Had a nice day, got a really awesome FurReal parrot that does alot of cool stuff. And yes, I did need another parrot-so fuck off:) Also enjoyed the Simpson’s movie and a nice dinner, even though I coulda ate less I suppose.

But right now I’m hoping for heavy duty commute snow. (Though common sense and an business truely concerned with the enviroment would see the logic of letting folks work from home least two days a week-not to mention all the state & federal $$ benefits to that end they could get.)

So let it snow, let it snow, let it Snow!

But keep the power on….